This week I learned about Glennon Doyle Melton, a blogger and best-selling author who moved through a juggernaut of press in a short amount of time. I had never heard about Glennon until this week, but by watching and listening interviews, reading her new book, and diving into her blog, I’ve learned that she is a champion of truth-telling, of being authentic.
In latest book Glennon talks about living as two people: the shiny person on the outside who says what everyone wants to hear which masks the more sensitive person on the inside, someone much more complex. Her conclusion is that you can’t live a wholehearted life as a split person, your outside needs to match your inside.
There are many reasons we keep a façade on the outside. Often times it starts with stimulus as a child with a parent or authority figure. We can quickly do the math and realize when I respond with X I’m loved and appreciated, when I respond with Y (which is probably more authentic) I’m shut down or disregarded.
These are painful lessons to learn, then we spend much of our adult life trying to unlearn them. What is one way to help us on this path of “unlearning?” Understanding how we communicate to others, how others perceive us, and how others need us to communicate with them. Over time, we can begin to not only show our authentic self more frequently, but express it in ways that quickly connect us with someone else, rather than leaving a gap.
Would you like to connect more authentically to your boss or co-workers? Contact me and in less than 10 minutes we can find out how you truly communicate and how others perceive your communications. What a great way to open those channels to allow authenticity to come through.